Showing posts with label books. Show all posts
Showing posts with label books. Show all posts

Monday, January 24, 2011

surprised by grace by tullian tchividjian

When I heard that Billy Graham's grandson, Tullian Tchividjian, wrote a book on my favorite book of the Bible, I just had to read it.  Surprised by Grace: God's Relentless Pursuit of Rebels is a really good exposition on the Book of Jonah.  Initially, I wanted to read this book because, quite frankly, I didn't want to like it.  I didn't want to like it because many people (pastors included) tend to immediately self-identify with Jonah.  And by identifying themselves with Jonah's plight, they fail to see God in the story.  The Book of Jonah is chuck-full of drama.  And Jonah is a complicated character, who really doesn't get "it" in the end.  He doesn't really understand how God could love the Ninevites and this is troubling to Jonah.  

Well, I couldn't have been any more wrong about this book.  Tullian, I think, does a really good job helping the reader understand that Jonah has more to do with God than it does with Jonah.  Here are a couple of points that I really liked about his exposition.  1) Tullian picks up on key repetitions of words and phrases from the Hebrew text.  For example, meaning is found in repetition and Tullian picks up on the fact that Jonah literally "goes down" and down and down to the point where he ultimately wants to "go down" to his death.   Often this repetition is lost in the English translations.  Other repetitions include: "fearing" as well as the hyperbolic use of the word "great".  Everything in Jonah is great!  2) I appreciate the fact that Tullian does not oversimplify the character of Jonah.  He helps the reader to see that Jonah is a complex character who deserves more than a simple character analysis.  3) Lastly, I appreciate how Tullian talks throughout the book about the gospel - God pursues and rescues both sinners and "wayward prophets."  Tullian says it best: "It [Jonah] reveals the fact that while you and I are great sinners, God is a great Savior, and that while our sin reaches far, his grace reaches farther" (18).

Sunday, November 07, 2010

church in the making :: what makes or breaks a church before it starts

I do not consider myself a church planter.  I have, however, served in leadership capacitities in three different church plants in the last four years.  Just a couple of weeks ago I accepted a call to be the Assistant Pastor of a four-year-old church in Byron Center.  I may need to reconsider how I view myself. 

Recently, I was given a really good book to read from my pastor on what makes or breaks a church before it launches entitled: Church in the Making by Ben Arment.  Arment is a church planter and researcher who has experience and credibility in the field.  A good summary of his book can be found on pages 142-3 which I quote here:

Mysterious transplants are a fascinating study.  The trouble is, we carry this same fascination over to the idea of transplanted church planters.  We hear stories about ambitious, young visionaries who prayed over a map until God revealed their target city like an epiphany from Gabriel.  We hear about them packing up their cars without a plan an moving to strange cities to take them by storm...They give us hope that all we need is enough faith and determination, and we too can succeed...A church planter may, in fact, accidentally land on the perfect context for his vision.  But it's not the most likely scenario.

According to Arment's research, parachute drop church plants simply do not survive.  An alternative, and better church planting strategy is to plant from within:

Most successful church plants are not the product of imported visions.  They were the deliberate effort of a local leader to meet the need in his own community.  They were started by leaders who had a deep understanding of their own towns...They were started by people who understood what kind of church was needed in a particular community...A transplanted church planter cannot do this...He doesn't have the deep relationships...he doesn't know what churches are already thriving...He's never considered the ecclesiographics.

Here's the climax:

The most effective church plants were not imported; they were homegrown.

For a while now, I have been wrestling with God, much like Jacob at the Jabbok about His call for us to plant a church right here in Zeeland, MI.  When I write this and verbalize this - it seems absurd to me.  Zeeland is probably the last place on earth that needs another church, but when I look around my neighborhood I know there are people around me who are not connected to the churches already here.  Why?  I think quite frankly, because they would not feel welcomed in those churches.  And it takes all kinds of churches to reach all kinds of people.

I've seen church plants begin and fail here.  Which is scarry, to be honest.  But I'll continue to pursue this in prayer and pray you join me. 

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

about you by dick staub


A few weeks ago I received a copy of Dick Staub's new book, About You subtitled Jesus Didn't Come to Make us Christian; Jesus Came to Make Us Fully Human; and I have two confessions to make.  First, the title alone was a tuning fork which was vibrating in harmony with something deep inside of me...namely the belief that the mission of Christ was and is to make us fully human.  So I knew that I was in for a treat when I opened this book.  And second, I have never heard of Dick Staub before, but apparently he is well-written and well-spoken.  This is not his first published book and he has had a nationally syndicated talk radio show (which I know nothing about).  He is also the host of The Kindlings Muse podcast.  So I hope I'm not the only one who didn't recognize the name Dick Staub.

About You is a book about us - about who we think we are and who we truly are.  It's a book about who were were created to be and for what purpose we were created.  Essentially, it's a book about identity.  And what I appreciate the most about About You is that Staub is not content to say that a fully human life is relegated only to a forgiven life.  Surely forgiveness is part of the equation, but what Staub does is he approaches identity from a wholistic perspective.  He seeks to give the gospel of Christ full application to every facet of human life!  For example, what does it mean to have fullness of life in our relationships, at our workplaces and in our work, in our behaviors and in our thoughts and emotions?  What would this kind of life look like?

While I appreciate Staub's wholistic approach to the gospel, I really like his ability to take complex "doctrine" and break it down into simple, easy to understand terms.  At the same time, Staub finds creative and imaginitive ways to intersect biblical truth and contemporary Western culture.  I whole-heartedly recommend About You for those who struggle particularly with knowing who we are and whose we are.  I can also see the value of reading this book for Christian formation as well as for pastors who may want to preach a sermon series on Christian identity (not to mention the really good sermon illustrations). 

Disclaimer: In accordance with local and federal laws, I disclose that I was given a free copy of this book for review by The Ooze Viral Bloggers. No compensation has been received for this review.

Tuesday, August 03, 2010

naivety & shifting responsibility

Well I believe I was a little overly optimistic about blogging my way entirely through Forni's book, Choosing Civility, for this summer project. Due to time constraints (and the fact that I'm going camping next week) I have decided skip to the end of the book (hey...it's my blog and I can do what I want) to talk about shifting blame and dodging responsibility.

Rule #25 - Don't Shift Responsibility and Blame. Throughout the entire book I've had the feeling that somebody beat Forni to this list of civility guidelines. And I was right! Back in 1990, Robert Fulghum wrote a little (but highly successful) book called All I Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. Here's what Fulghum says: "Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate-school mountain, but there in the
sandpile at Sunday School." Wisdom is found in the "sandpile at Sunday School." I don't know about you, but I like that. It's humbling because I have two master's degrees, but it's so true. Accepting responsibility and blame has been one of the most difficult lessons I have been teaching my children. Like a broken record, I hear from their little lips, "But he/she _________ me first!" You know, I'm not surprised by this. Thus is the nature of children when left to their own, but unlike broken records, I try to respond differently than the standard, "Well, I'm going to end it." Rather, I tell my kids to own it - to own what they did and accept their punishment (or reward).

Here are the things that Fulghum learned in kindergarten (and I wonder if most of the problems we have in the church today could be worked out if we followed these simple guidelines):

Share everything.

Play fair.

Don't hit people.

Put things back where you found them.

Clean up your own mess.

Don't take things that aren't yours.

Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.

Wash your hands before you eat.

Flush.

Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.

Live a balanced life - learn some and think some
and draw and paint and sing and dance and play
and work every day some.

Take a nap every afternoon.

When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic,
hold hands, and stick together.

Be aware of wonder.

Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup:
The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody
really knows how or why, but we are all like that.

Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even
the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die.
So do we.

And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books
and the first word you learned - the biggest
word of all - LOOK.

He closes with this thought...
Everything you need to know is in there somewhere.
The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation.
Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.

Take any of those items and extrapolate it into
sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your
family life or your work or your government or
your world and it holds true and clear and firm.
Think what a better world it would be if
all - the whole world - had cookies and milk about
three o'clock every afternoon and then lay down with
our blankies for a nap. Or if all governments
had a basic policy to always put thing back where
they found them and to clean up their own mess.

And it is still true, no matter how old you
are - when you go out into the world, it is best
to hold hands and stick together.

© Robert Fulghum, 1990.
Found in Robert Fulghum, All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten, Villard Books: New York, 1990, page 6-7.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

the gift of praise

In the book Choosing Civility, Rule #8 is Give and Accept Praise. Just this morning I overheard a conversation between co-laborers in Christ about a mutual aquaintance who pleaded with her father to give her praise when he saw her parenting well instead of continually criticizing her for all the "wrong" things she does. "Please," she pleaded, "just tell me when you see me doing something right!" This woman's plea is our plea for affirmation; for a job well done; for a kind gesture; or a Godly word.

One of my mentor's is really good at giving praise. And what I really appreciate about his praise is that it is frequent and genuine. I really don't think the man can help himself. My wife and I will miss an upcoming congregational vote to purchase a piece of property for the church we are members of, and so I emailed him to let him know that we were going to be gone on that particular Sunday, but we vote "yes" in favor of the property purchase.

Here was his response (I post this not because I'm drawing attention to myself - I'm really not. This is an excellent example of how pastors - or anyone who oversees others - should think of others)...

"Josh – Can’t wait to see you – hope that it is soon – I will be going to Arkansas on a family mission trip next week. Appreciate who you are and what you do in our midst as a church family. You are a deep blessing."

I wrote to him about casting our vote. He responded with a word that lifted me up and set the tone for my day. This is the kind of gift where the only appropriate response is a simple and heartfelt, "Thank you."

speak kindly & give praise

Rule #7 in Choosing Civility is Don't Speak Ill. It is framed negatively of Rule #6 which is to Speak Kindly. The memories I carry with me related to speaking ill of others are long car rides with our two children in the back strapped in next to each other, and as any parent well knows, it always begins with name calling.

"Meanie," he says.
"Poopyhead," she retorts.
"You're a boy!" is his comeback.
"Oh yeah, you're a princess!" she declares.

Name calling leads to hitting and kicking (and sometimes spitting). But it always - in the end - leads to hurt feelings and one or both of the kids cries. It's inevitable. It's unavoidable. And there's nothing that can be done. Can't reason with them. Polite rebukes don't work. Threats are pointless (you know - the kind where you look in the rear view mirror and point at your children telling them to "cut it out" hoping they can see just how serious you are and all the while you are wearing sunglasses). We as parents are seriously ridiculous sometimes. Could stop the car, but what's the point?!?!? There must be some unwritten law that says when a family goes on a road trip, the kids in the back of van must get on each other's nerves. Must. Our solution - distraction. Put in another DVD or see who can find something orange first.

I say all of this to say that it's more important to praise our kids when we see them interacting and speaking well to one another in order to encourage more good behavior. Kids really can't help themselves because they are not as able to see the world as being bigger than themselves. As adults, I believe we have more options available to us when someone is not speaking very kindly about another person. And let's not foll ourselves by pretending that we don't name call or bash others - because we do. We're just craftier and more secretive than our kids.

"Did you know So-and-so is 8 weeks pregnant? You wouldn't believe who the father is!"
"So-and-so didn't put any time into the project, yet took all the credit. He's such a _______________."

When faced with situatios where we want to speak ill about someone or find ourselves brought into a conversation about another - certainly we could leave the situation. Or we could remain silent, but then we run the risk of inadvertently giving approval of what is being said when in fact we disapprove. Or maybe, just maybe, a distraction is what we need to redirect the conversation. Works for my kids.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

calvin & c.s. lewis: solving the riddle of the reformation

Several months ago, a friend from church - a man who I deeply respect and desire to have a fraction of his intellect - came to me with a problem and wanted some advice. His issue was that over the last 15 years or so he has been trying to solve what he calls the "Reformation riddle" of how Calvinists and Arminians and other theological camps can look at the same scriptural texts and come away with very different interpretations concerning the sovereignty of God, the responsibility of man, and salvation. How can this be, he wondered; and should he continue to read and write a book he had been working on when it all seemed hopeless?

After what seemed like a short conversation - though we talked for many hours - he decided to finish the work he set out to do so long ago. After many months of reading, writing, revising and sleepless nights, my friend finished his book. Yesterday I was pleased to receive a copy of his finished product appropriately entitled, Calvin & C.S. Lewis: Solving the Riddle of the Reformation. I look forward to reading my friend's book and I can now say that I am the pastor of someone who has written a self-published book. Congratulations Jordan, my friend! You can purchase a copy of Jordan's book by clicking here.

Thursday, July 08, 2010

be inclusive

As I read Forni's chapter on being inclusive, I'm reminded of a simple truth that I'll call the Law of the In-Laws. There are no hard and fast rules to this law, but it has been my experience and I have observed that the "in-law" will never completely fit in with the family. There will always be a hint or a glimmer or a remnant of this feeling that they just don't fit in.

There are three reasons (two anthropological and one theological) as to why I think this happens. The first is that our history with the "in-laws" is shorter as compared to our spouses. If you are married, you are an "in-law" which means that you are at least 20 years (or more) behind in that family history for which you will never be able to catch up on. They have history with one another prior to our coming along and joining the family. Those bonds and social networks and interactions have already been forged and some sort of equilibrium has been established before you said "I do." So history is the first reason why there will not be a complete and total fit. The second reason, related to the first, is that we have our own families of origin who raised us and nurtured us and taught us and disciplined us and accepts us for who we are as a person. A simple example would be that I don't call my father-in-law when I want to talk to a father-like figure about life. I call my dad. I don't hug my father-in-law the same way I hug my dad and tell him how much I love him.

The third reason is sin. Just flat out sin.

Even in Christian families I've witnessed this law at work. Though we are all "one in Christ" there is still a remnant of exclusivity that looms in the air - silent, odorless, and invisible to the naked eye. But it's there.

Here's a word to the "in-laws" who feel like they are the "out-laws" in the family. Kill 'em with kindness. Don't wait for them to intiate a conversation or to ask you to join them for a night out. Rather, be the initiator, even if it feels awkward or stupid. Every act of kindness matters.

Monday, June 28, 2010

think the best & listen

Continuing our journey through Choosing Civility, Rule #3 is Think the Best. Now, I don't know about you but I'm a "the glass is half-full" kind of guy. I naturally give other people, even complete strangers, the benefit of the doubt. Well almost. While I do tend to think of myself as this kind of person I have met others who really give others the benefit. I once dated a girl in college who was bright, energetic, Godly, and I distinctly remember having a conversation about picking up hitch-hikers. "Without a doubt," she said, "I'd do it." I, on the other hand, wasn't so certain. My concern had to do with safety. "What if the person you pick up has a knife or gun?" I asked. It really didn't matter to my friend - the threat of violence only reinforced something she already knew - desperate people do desperate things like hurt others. To think the best in others requires courage and a degree of self-confidence because eventually the person you give the benefit of the doubt to will let you down. I don't know about you (especially if you're a "the glass is half-empty" kind of person) but I'd rather give others the benefit and risk being let down.

But there is a benefit to being a "half-empty" type of person as well. Anyone who knows this kind of person knows that it's difficult to earn their trust or respect or you fill in the _________. But what I've learned from the half-empties is that we need to be discerning in just how much trust, respect or _________ that we give to others. I learned this from my wife. While I teach her to see the best in and take a risk on others, she teaches me to ask questions and to be safe while taking appropriate risks.

Rule #4 - Listen. I'll take this a step further and suggest that we need to learn to be better listeners. If you answer yes to any of the following questions, chances are you are not a very good listener. 1) Do you check your email, text, or watch the television while having conversations with others (in other words are you easily distracted)? 2) Do you find yourself formulating your response in your head before the other person has finished speaking? 3) Are you into advice giving? 4) Who does most of the talking - you or the other person? 4) Do you make the conversation about you, your struggles and problems, or your successes?

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

pay attention & acknowledge others

I'm a little behind on my interaction with Choosing Civility by P.M Forni. No matter...pressing forward, I offer you the first two "rules" (of 25) of civilized conduct. Rule #1 - Pay Attention. Let me just ask, "Just how much do we pay attention throughout the course of one day?" How much do we pay attention to others, our surroundings, other voices, our thoughts and feelings? My daily commute to Byron Center takes me about 25 minutes via the more scenic route. I remember the first couple of days I noticed so many different things en route, like the house with a junk yard next to a mansion on a hill; like the perfectly parallel rows of crops beginning to take root in the soil; like the smell of chickens as I approach the chicken hatchery between Burnips and Jamestown. Forni contends, "We spend much of our daily lives neglecting to pay attention...When we relate to the world as if we were on automatic pilot, we can hardly be at our best in encounters with our fellow human beings" (36-7).

Rule #2 - Acknowledge Others - is closely related to the first. I envision both of these rules as being more "other-focused" or external to myself. Surely I must pay attention to myself, my thoughts, my feelings and attitudes at times as Forni suggests, "At times we will be turned inward, unavailable to others, protective of our space and frame of mind. And that's all right" (43). But too much of me is not a good thing.

Here's where I see these two principles most active in my life. I am the father of three wonderful children. Anyone who has children or cares for those who cannot completely care for themselves will relate to what I'm about to say. My children are starving for my attention and affection. Not a single day goes by where one of them doesn't say, "Daddy look! Look Daddy! See what I can do! Aren't you proud of me?" I love those moments but also confess that sometimes I get annoyed because if I don't look right away their volume and intensity gets louder and louder until I actually stop what it is I may or may not be doing at the time and be attentive to them. When I acknowledge my children, they feel valued and loved.

We, and when I say "we" I really mean "me," would be wise and well to slow ourselves down enough be attentive to our surroundings and the people near to us and get outside of ourselves enough to let them know that we value their presence in our lives.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

as is by krista finch


Krista Finch’s first book, As Is: Unearthing Commonplace Glory is a delight. Finch is a masterful wordsmith who carefully crafts poetry and short memoirs, which mines the conflict and tension we feel in our lives, as her opening poem rightly suggests: “…that was a long time ago; there’s no time for chasing lightening bugs now” not with the long laundry list of things that we do which redirects our attention from perhaps deeper, more meaningful spaces (p. 9). I was hooked by the opening poem which, I believe, sets the tone, rhythm, and content for the rest of the book. I had this sense that if I enjoyed the opening as much as I did that I would enjoy the rest of what was to come. As Is is witty and honest; and if we are honest with ourselves we will find many points of connection in Finch’s short stories.

As Is should be read devotionally. I found myself reading 2-3 chapters (which are very short) a day in order to let the story “sink in” and give myself time for reflection. The one thing I really appreciate about this book is that it forces us as readers to slow down and reflect – even meditate – on what is being said. Reading this book in 1-2 sittings is not recommended and may even disappoint if attempted.

Disclaimer: In accordance with local and federal laws, I disclose that I was given a free copy of this book for review by The Ooze Viral Bloggers. No compensation has been received for this review.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

understanding the human spirit

C.S. Lewis is masterful in his understanding and expression of the condition of the human spirit in relation to God. He writes:

The human spirit will not even begin to try to surrender self-will as long as all seems to be well with it. Now error and sin both have this property, that the deeper they are the less their victim suspects their existence; they are masked evil...We can rest contentedly in our sins and in our stupidities; and anyone who has watched gluttons shovelling down the most exquisite foods as if they did not know what they were eating, will admit that we can ignore even pleasure. But pain insists upon being attended to. God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pain: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world (The Problem of Pain).

Wednesday, June 09, 2010

forget love, try manners

"I am optimistic about our ability to better ourselves," says Forni in his book Choosing Civility, "We can learn to be decent and caring; we can learn to give of ourselves; we can learn to love" [19]. Though we don't have control over the events that happen in our lives, we do however, have a say in how we choose to respond in times of joy and in times of crisis. Forni goes on to say that our circumstances prevent us from learning how to be civil and how to love and how to forgive. So how are we suppose to learn to do these things? We need a teacher; someone who does these things well to teach us the basics. Love will come, says Forni, but manners come first.

For some reason, I'm not quite as optimistic as Forni about "our ability to better ourselves." I am, however, more optimistic in the Holy Spirit's ability to better us. I agree with Forni that we need a teacher to teach us, but not just any teacher. We need to follow a first century rabbi named Jesus. The more time we spend following our Teacher, Rabbi Jesus, the more recognize we are unable to change ourselves but need his Spirit to transform us - to love as Jesus loves; to forgive as Jesus forgives; and treat others as Jesus treats them.

But a question still remains, "To what extent can our circumstances prevent us from finding a teacher?"

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

coffee, conversation, and choosing civility


There are three things I really enjoy doing at the same time - drinking a cup of good coffee while having meaningful conversation about thought-provoking books. Okay, so I really do enjoy the first two things, but the conversation doesn't necessarily have to revolve around books.

Over the course of the summer, I will post a series of "conversations" / reflections on P.M. Forni's book, Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct, which can be purchased here. Why this book? Well the honest answer is - because I have to. (This is afterall a book about civility, I'm sure there's a chapter on honesty in there somewhere.) This is an assignment, but this is also an interesting book in which Forni wants to make a case for making civility "a central concern in our lives" (Foreward).

From the back cover: In Choosing Civility, Forni offers 25 rules for connecting effectively with others - at home, at work, in our daily encounters. Forni covers topics that include:

- Think Twice Before Asking Favors
- Refrain from Idle Complaints
- Accept and Give Praise
- Don't Shift Responsibility and Blame
- Give Constructive Criticism
- Care for Your Guests


Forni suggests in the introduction that "we agree on one principle: that a crucial measure of our success in life is the way we treat one another every day of our lives" (4). More simply "good relationships make our lives good, and bad relationships make our lives bad" (6). What I appreciate most about the introduction to this book is that the measuring stick for success is a measure of the quality of our relationships. Forni could have used any number of indicators to objectify the quality of life like happiness or money. Instead Forni wants the quality of relationship to be the measure by which we guage our success in life.

Question to Ponder: What are some of our own measuring sticks that we use to measure success?

Tuesday, May 04, 2010

The Bible - The Disicpline vs. Heschel

There is a Hebrew blessing that goes like this: "Blessed are you O LORD, our God, King of the universe for you have sanctified us by your commandments and commanded us to engross ourselves in the way of Torah." This is a great prayer! It got me thinking about the "way of Torah." What is Torah? For that matter, "What is the Bible?" I offer two different perspectives. The first comes from my tradition's definition of what the Bible is and the second comes from Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel. First, from The Discipline:

We believe that the books of the Old and New Testaments constitute the Holy Scriptures. They are the inspired and infallibly written Word of God, fully inerrant in their original manuscripts and superior to all human authority, and have been transmitted to the present without corruption of any essential doctrine. We believe that they contain all things necessary to salvation; so that whatever is not read therein, nor may be proved thereby, is not to be required of any man or woman that it should be believed as an article of faith, or be thought requisite or necessary to salvation...

Now from Heschel's book, God in Search of Man:
Irrefutably, indestructibly, never wearied by time, the Bible wanders through the ages, giving itself with ease to all men, as if it belonged to every soul on earth. It speaks in every language and in every age. It benefits all the arts and does not compete with them. We all draw upon it, and it remains pure, inexhaustible and complete. In three thousand years it has not aged a day. It is a book that cannot die. Oblivion shuns its pages. Its power is not subsiding. In fact, it is still at the very beginning of its career, the full meaning of its content having hardly touched the threshold of our minds; like an ocean at the bottom of which countless pearls lie, waiting to be discovered, its spirit is still to be unfolded. Though its words seem plain and its idiom translucent, unnoticed meanings, undreamed-of intimations break forth constantly. More than two thousand years of reading and research have not succeeded in exploring its full meaning. Today it is as if it had never been touched, never been seen, as if we had not even begun to read it. Its spirit is too much for one generation to bear. Its words reveal more than we can absorb. All we usually accomplish is the attempt to appropriate a few single lines so that our spirit becomes synonymous with a passage (242).

I don't know about you but I would like my tradition's understanding of the Bible to reflect the sentiments of Heschel rather than taking a vanilla, "can be found anywhere" kind of position on the reliability and sufficiency of Scripture. Heschel - 1; The Discipline - 0.

Thursday, December 31, 2009

what difference do it make?



Well this post is a first of sorts - not the first post of the new year, but it is the first time I have "reviewed" a book for this blog. Thomas Nelson Publishers graciously sent me a copy of Ron Hall, Denver Moore, and Lynn Vincent's new book What Difference Do It Make? which is the follow-up the their first wildly successful book, The Same Kind of Different As Me.

Lingering behind every "sequel" is the question of whether or not it will be as good as the original. There is no question that What Difference is as good as the first. What Difference Do It Make is a kind of "where are they now" book that not only continues where Same Kind left off, but also shares the fruit of how people from around the nation have responded to Same Kind by telling their stories of answering a call to make a difference in their contexts.

In this world where tragedy makes top news and seemingly sucks the life out of the air around us, What Difference gives us room to breathe more easily. I personally enjoy reading true-life inspiring tales and what is great about this book is that the story is not over - it continues - and will continue for many years to come.

I have included an excerpt from the book below (graciously provided by TNP). After you read this book, give it to a friend, coworker or family member who you think it could inspire to make a difference.

Introduction

Hello again.

If you’re reading this book, it might be because you already have read Same Kind of Different as Me, a true story about my wife, Deborah, and the man who changed our lives, Denver Moore. If you haven’t, don’t worry—we’ve included enough of the story to catch you up. (The “catch up” sections from Same Kind of Different as Me are in italics.)

Since June 2006, when Same Kind of Different as Me snuck first onto bookstore shelves, then onto the New York Times bestsellers list, Denver and I have traveled thousands of miles back and forth across America. We’ve spoken at hundreds of venues, from local book clubs filled with sweet little old ladies to the Bethesda, Maryland, symphony hall. (We were in Bethesda as guests of Doro Bush Kock and her mother, former first lady Barbara Bush, who quite possibly is Denver’s biggest fan.) Throughout that time, we have seen thousands of lives changed—homeless shelters started and millions of dollars raised for the homeless, yes, but also astonishing changes in the lives of everyday Americans that we never could’ve imagined or predicted.

That’s why we wrote this book, to tell you just a few of the stories of hope and redemption that God continues to write in the lives of so many—and in our own.

One day in the spring of 2009, as we were writing, I was in the kitchen at the Murchison estate, where Denver and I live, on a conference call with executives at Thomas Nelson, our publisher. During the call, Denver walked in.

“Hey, Denver,” I said, putting the call on speaker. “We’re talking about titles for the new book. Got any ideas?”

“Title for the new book?” he said, screwing his eyelids down into his famous hard squint. “What difference do it make?”

“What Difference Do It Make?” I said. “That’s it!”

Denver shrugged and walked off, shaking his head.

It was the perfect title. Since Same Kind came out, over and over, like the needle stuck in the groove of an old vinyl record, we’ve repeated a single message: one person can make a difference. My wife, Deborah Hall, is proof of that.

As many of you know, God took Deborah in 2001. Cancer. But if she were here today, she would tell you she was nobody special. If you had come to our house, she would have made you fresh coffee or tea and invited you to sit down at the kitchen table and tell her about yourself. And you would have felt loved. Because that was Deborah’s gift. She loved God and, because of her intimate walk with Him, loved people. Her whole life was about forgiveness and unconditional love, two qualities that most of us find difficult to master on a regular basis.

It really was that simple. Deborah’s life showed that kind of love is attainable for anyone willing to put in the time on their knees, then overcome their fear and go out and get their hands a little dirty. And I have talked to literally hundreds of people who told me that Deborah’s story inspired them to do just that. Through the difference her life made, others are now making a difference, and that’s in part what this book is about. It’s packed full with stories folks have shared with us about how Deborah’s example inspired them to do more, both in their own homes and in their communities.

A lady named Ann, for example, wrote to us from Vivian, a small Louisiana town just north of Shreveport—not too far from Red River Parish, where Denver worked the plantations. Ann wrote of how she loaned Same Kind of Different as Me to about twenty different friends. Every friend who brings it back has a very different story about how the story affected him or her.

“One person notices the friendship Denver and Ron share,” Ann wrote. “Another feels shame over the way her grandparents treated the ‘Denvers’ in their lives.”

One woman surprised Ann by telling her that the portion of the book that dealt with Deborah’s cancer battle stirred her to go and have a colonoscopy she’d been putting off!

Like Ann, we’ve been struck by the amazing variety of stories people tell us about how Debbie’s story affected them. Here we thought we were writing a book about one woman’s determination to make a difference for the homeless, and we started getting letters about marriages restored, friendships renewed, ministries begun, even babies adopted!

In Fort Worth, a high school teacher named Carin told us that, “unbelievably,” she’d been able to get the school administration to approve our book to be read by her entire mental-health class. “The students have learned how so many issues affect our mental health,” Carin wrote. “I have also used the book to help relay to them the importance of community involvement, passion, and what it means to be a servant to others.”

Shortly after Deborah died, her best friend, Mary Ellen, told me that God had whispered to her during prayer that Deborah was like the kernel of wheat Jesus refers to in the gospel of John: “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.”

Mary Ellen told me she thought that maybe Deborah’s death would be like that—fruitful. I cannot even express how much I absolutely did not want to hear that at the time. But it appears that Mary Ellen was right, more right than even she knew.

She told me about the wheat kernel just a couple of days before the dedication of the Deborah L. Hall Memorial Chapel, the new worship facility built at the Union Gospel Mission in my wife’s honor and funded by donations that poured in after local folks heard Denver’s story at her memorial service. At the time, we thought the chapel, along with the new care facilities for the homeless, were the fruit God would bring from my wife’s death. I had no idea that the Union Gospel Mission was just the first fruit in what would become a cornucopia of blessing.

Take Detra, for example. Detra, who lives in Austin, Texas, wrote to tell us that after reading Deborah’s story, she decided to start carrying food and socks and blankets in her car so that she can bless the homeless. Also, her church had a picnic in an Austin park and had so much food that they began feeding hungry people who were in the park that day.

One little girl asked Detra, “When are you coming back?”

After that, the church made the picnic a monthly event where church members sit down and break bread with the homeless.

Would I take back blessings like that one and those you are about to read about in this book? If I could rewind time like a video and create a cancer story with a happy ending, would I?

I’m sorry to say there’s a big part of me that says, “Yes! I want my wife back!”

But I can tell you without reservation that Deborah would say, “No, Ron. I’ll see you soon.”

And so the story goes on—men and women all over the country inspired by the story of Denver and Deborah to make a difference in other people’s lives. Over the past three years, I thought I was making a difference too—traveling and speaking all over the country, “carrying Miss Debbie’s torch,” as Denver calls it. And I suppose I was.

But in 2009, I learned that sometimes the most difficult difference to make is the one that’s closest to home.

– Ron Hall
Dallas, Texas
July 2009

Friday, July 17, 2009

where is God when it hurts - part four

A Critique of Culture
Yancey rightly questions our culture's false perceptions regarding pain, "Not only is pain useful as a warning - it may also be an essential element in our richest experiences....We are told that pain is the antithesis of pleasure....Our distorted viewpoint helps foster the myth that pain and pleasure are diametrically opposed: our life styles murmur it to us every day" (41-2).

This is a tough pill to swallow, yet we must contend with the apparent opposing worldviews. Though not always obvious, our culture and the societies in which we live - both rightly and wrongly - tell us that pain is "bad" - "Have a sore back? Take some Aleve." Americans, including myself, tend to conceptualize pain as something that must be mastered with technology (42). Our culture tends to remove us from the natural cycle of pain and death in the animal world - we experience these things vicariously through alternative media outlets like television, movies, magazines, the internet, and books. This kind of vicarious living produces numbness. We can become numb to the natural rhythms of creation. Yancey says, "It is too easy for us to perceive the sensations of life as something which must be done to us. We don't see pleasure as something we reach out for and actively attain after struggle. If it involves pain, we abandon the search" (43).

"On a higher level," Yancey continues, "most worthwhile human accomplishments involve a long history of struggle...The pleasure after the pain absorbs it...Jesus used childbirth as an analogy: nine months of waiting, intense labor, then absolute ecstasy (John 16:21)" (47).

Yancey closes this section with this thought, "Pain cannot be extracted from life's experiences and roundly condemned. A knee-jerk reaction against God for allowing pain is futile [see Job]...and often it is a necessary step to pleasure and fulfillment" (49).

I like that - "Pain is a necessary step to pleasure and fulfillment." Anything worth doing or anything worth being or attaining will ultimately cost you something of tremendous value. It requires investment and sacrifice [among other things]. Childbirth is just one example. Another example are athletes who are dedicated to their sports and put the time, energy, and training in order to compete at a high level.

I don't think that we need to necessarily "embrace" or "encourage" pain - but we do need to recognize that without pain we don't really know what pleasure is. Pain - though uncomfortable for us to experience - is necessary to living a fulfilled life.

More to come...

Thursday, July 02, 2009

where is God when it hurts - part three

Pain - the "gift" that some don't have

In 2 Kings 5, we encounter a charasmatic hero from Aram named Naaman. Naaman was a commander in the army of the king of Aram. Yet despite his military prowess - Naaman was a leper. The word "leprosy" probably conjures up all kinds of mental pictures ranging from snow-white skin peeling to limbs falling off. Nevertheless, movies largely have shaped the way we view leprosy, or Hansen's disease, mostly in unhelpful or unrealistic ways.

Hansen's Disease

Largely what we see of those who suffer from this cruel disease is the effect of something much deeper and more sinister. Hansen's disease (HD) is an anestheic which numbs the pain cells of the hands, feet, nose, ears, and eyes. While most diseases are feared because of their pain, this disease is disastrous because of the lack of pain associated with it. Current research has shown that in 99% of cases, HD only numbs the extremities. So how does decay happen? Well, if the nerve cells are destroyed in HD patients, then actions such as removing a hot pan from the oven with a bare hand would not cause pain - but a burn or hand blister would still be evidenced. Yancey tells a story of a time when a HD doctor tried to open a rusty storeroom lock, but it would not give. A patient, who he describes as undersized, malnourshed 10-year old, approached and offered to unlock the padlock. the boy took the key and with a quick jerk he turned the key in the lock. The doctor was amazed. But upon closer inspection, the doctor discovered that the difficult act of turning the key gashed one of the boy's fingers open - exposing his bone below. Despite the depth of the wound, the boy experienced no pain.

"These people can undergo surgery without anesthesia, and they can impress their friends with painless feats...but their lives are marked with danger" (38). Those who suffer from HD "should make all of us discard the common notion that pain is an unpleasantness to be avoided at all costs...More than anything, it [pain] frees us to enjoy normalcy on this planet" (39). Without pain, Yancey continues, "we would lead unbalanced, paranoid lives, encountering unknown dangers, never confident that we weren't destroying ourselves" (39).

A Thought

Though the Bible describes Naaman as a leper - that was a fairly common word used to describe anyone who had any kind of skin disease. Maybe Naaman had what we call Hansen's Disease today or perhaps he had a really bad rash - we don't know. Had Naaman been an Israelite, he would have been relegated to the outskirts [or margins] of society where contact with "the diseased" was forbidden. What a way to go through life - to never be allowed to experience relationship with other human beigns except perhaps with others who have a skin disease as well. We were all created to experience relationship in this life and to experience it to the fullest. Can you imagine life without being able to feel the grass between your toes or feel the soft touch of a loved one's hand?

More to come....

Monday, June 22, 2009

where is God when it hurts - part two

I have found Where is God When It Hurts to be a very insightful and personal book concerning the issues of pain and suffering in today's world. Yancey uses a ton of real-life experiences to communicate people's different responses to pain and he incorporates what the Bible has to say about pain and suffering. At the outset, Yancey confesses that he does not address this issue philosophically as many have done in the past - rather he tries to keep pain very personal. He acknowledges that the large questions such as - "how did evil enter the world?" and "why is suffering dispensed inequitably?" are not addressed in this book.

Yancey begins his treatment of pain by looking at pain physiologically - that is, how and why does the human person experience pain from a physiologic perspective. In other words, medically speaking - what's going on inside of us? And what does our body's response say about pain?

Pain - "The Gift that Nobody Wants"
The human body is complex - so complex that the nervous system [which produces pain] cannot be replicated in laboratories - though this has been tried. Physiologically speaking - pain is the body's warning system. It also serves as a protection system. But as we all know and have experienced - pain is well...painful. We don't like to feel pain because it hurts and causes us discomfort. So why do our bodies need pain? Does pain have to be unpleasant? Here's what Yancey wonders, "A protective system is, of course, necessary, but must it hurt? What about when a piercing shot of pain races to the brain, doubling up a patient - couldn't God have found another way of alerting us?" (28).

Extensive laboratory research led by Dr. Paul Brand using audible signals coming through hearing aids and visual lights has shown that patients would tolerate loud noises if s/he wanted to do something such as turning a screwdriver too hard, even though the warning signals told them it would be harmful. Finally Brand resorted to electric shock - people had to be forced to remove their hands - being alerted to danger was insufficient (28). The stimulus for these patients had to be unpleasant.

Here's what Dr. Brand sincerely says, "Thank God for pain!"

Yancey continues, "Unless the warning signal demands response, we might not heed it...for the majority of us, the pain network performs daily protective service...pain then is not God's great goof. It is a gift - the gift that nobody wants. Without it, our lives would be open to abuse and horrible decay" (29).

I would add that pain is the gift that we all have received - well, most of us - as we shall see very soon - not all of us are born with a properly functioning nervous system which warns and protects us. Pain demands attention, says Yancey, and it reminds me that the next time I turn my ankle or wake up with stiff neck that I need to be cautious so as to not wipe out the pain with ibuprofen or other pain relieving pills - just because I'm uncomfortable - because in doing so I might make my injury worse by ignoring the pain.

Stay tuned...

Thursday, June 11, 2009

where is God when it hurts - part one


I've read the opening chapters of Philip Yancey's classic book on hurt and suffering from a Christian perspective entitled, Where is God When it Hurts, and I'd like to open this post with a quote which struck me as dead on. Read what Yancey says in the opening chapter...

After an extensive tour of the United States, the well-known German pastor and theologian Helmut Thielicke was asked what he saw as the greatest defect among American Christians. He replied, "They have an inadequate view of suffering." I have come to agree with him.

There you have it - one widely respected opinion on the greatest "defect" among American Christians today. Actually this book was first published in 1977 and I believe Thielicke is spot on concerning this issue. In my opinion, our [Christian]view of human suffering in the Western world is too small and inadequate.

And so it is Yancey's hope - which began as a quest - that Christians have something to offer those who are suffering. And, offer a message which can strenghten our own faith if we suffer. "Where is God when it hurts? Is He trying to tell us something?" (15).

More to come...